Upang magkaroon ka talaga ng aksyon dito, dapat mong igalaw ang iyong katawan at gumawa ka ng ingay parati, yan ang magandang paraan para ikaw ay magenjoy sa iyong ginagawa. Kaya gawin mo na ngayon.
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Kung ang pakiramdam mo ay maganda gawin mo uli. Kamusta ang pakiramdam mo ngayon?
Ano ang gusto mong maramdaman ngayon na na magkakaroon ka ng pakiramdam na excited o sobrang pagiging buhay na buhay?
Ano sa isip ang makapagpaparamdam sa iyo ng pagkaexcited at sobrang pagiging buhay na buhay?
At kung iyong makamit ang goal mong yan ngahyon na ano ang iyong mararamdaman?
Ilan sa inyo ang pumapayag sa inyong kagustuhan na gumawa ng bagay na dakila o magaling para sa sarili? Pakisagot ng mga katanungan sa itaas para sa akin muna. Ang mahalaga rin ay dapat mo talagang igalaw ang iyong katawan o gumawa ng ingay, ito ay ang paraang makakapagpaepektibo sa iyo.
(Tapat kong iginalaw ang aking katawan para maging aktibo ito habang sinagot ko ang mga katanungan ng buong katotohanan. Naging sobra ang pagiging excited ko! Ibang-iba talaga pagiginalaw ko ang aking katawan, mas maganda ang aking pakiramdam. Gagawin ko rin itong ginawa sa iba pang mga katanungan.)
Magaling, yan ang pinakasekreto, at yan ang sinasabing prinsipyo sa 90/10.
90% ay kung paano ka magreak, at ang una mong gagawin sa bagay na yan ay ang pagbigay mo sa sarili mo ng pinakamagandang ngiti, ienjoy mo ang ngiting yan kasabay ng iyong katawan. Biglang switch nabago mo pa lang ang iyong focus, o ang totoo'y sa isang tibok lamang. Ngayon sino ang nagsasabing hindi mo kayang palakasin ang gugustuhin mong palakasin, tulad kung gusto mo ng tunay na magandang pakiramdam.
Itatranslate pa po ang iba.
It's really a privilege of being with you now. I'll be sharing with you
experiences that I have had from a great author and teacher, Anthony
Robbins, and most of which are verbatim. The rest of the words and ideas
come from Robert Kiyosaki, John Maxwell, and other inspiring persons
and authors whose more than 30 years of experience could easily be read
in books and heard on videos. And now are available to you right now
without further reinventing the wheel or trying to step to a new horizon
of how to do things your way. In brief, what I'm saying is we all got
our models now to copy and apply.
I’ve done a lot of living and as
you have, I’m sure you lived a lot of different experiences, so I’m
excited to share with you some distinctions that I know could make a
difference in the quality of your life, huge difference, and that's not
making an exaggeration.
But anything what I'll tell you will be a total waste of time if you just sit and read on passively.
Have
you ever been to an environment such as this? And you learned something
and you knew it was really valuable, and you believed it was valuable,
no one was selling you on it, you knew it was important, you were
excited about what you learned and you never actually applied what you
did in any way? Have you done this before? Do you still feel
intelligent?
I've also learned over the years, since 1990, that no matter what the
subject is, is that in order for you and I to get something that's
valuable out of this time, we're going to have to activate our minds and
bodies. Similarly meant in Mens sana et corpore sano, a sound mind and
sound body or a congruent mind with the body. If we sit and read
passively as we learn, even if we're enjoying what we're learning, we
don't retain it. We may retain it intellectually, we may have our notes
from it but we don't actually follow thru. Do you agree with me on this?
If you just read on something it goes in and out of your head, it's
interesting but what I like to do is for you to tap your best condition
so you build muscles so you actually follow thru. For these things to
really work you really have to really engage your body.
If you just
sit and read on passively, within a week you'll remember less than 10%
more or less of what you read, and that's not because you don't have a
good memory, it's just because the information, you're going thru so
much of you life with so much stimulation, it doesn't get retained.
If
you take that information and you just write it down, and nothing else
even if you never read the notes again, you retain about 30-40% more or
less of what you've read, because the physical act of writing it down,
makes you draw the groove deeper of what you've learned. Would you be
willing to physically activate your body while you learn things that you
read now?
If you can physically activate your body while you learn things now, if
you can yell back the answers, if you can engage your nervous system
then you retain about 85-90% of what you've heard yourself read. So I
really want to make sure you are reading and you get what you're reading
about. So when I ask you to do something, at the beginning it might
feel a little different, which is to be much more animated in your
response, and the reason for that is you know if all of us in this
environment has had a problem and that is, we were basically trained to
be educated and what happens is you got trained on what you have to do,
when you get there on your chair, what are you supposed to do, sit down
there and shut up. Don't talk to your neighbor, don't do anything when
someone tells you what to do. Do you agree with me on this?
But today we live in the 21st century as corny as that may sound, and
today you sit in your business and you don't talk to your neighbor,
you're out of business, if you wait for someone to tell you what to do,
then someone else is going to be succeeding and you're going to be
waiting. Do you agree with me on this?
So what I'm going to ask you to do is to be much more active now, much
more aggressive. So the mind set of using our bodies and using our
voices is what I want you getting geared up for as if you’re sitting
here right now, and let’s say you’re sitting passively, When you’re in
school how do you sit? Usually in a peak learning state. And If you’re
sitting here right now while I’m speaking and even if you’re enjoying
yourself but you’re at passive state, the state of mind you’re in gets
linked to what you’re learning, so if you can be sitting here and going,
wow, I’m excited about this session even though you’re calm or whatever
you’re saying If you’re in a casual state, as a quiet state, you’re
going to have an information in and out. Do you agree with me on this?
And later on even if you’ve enjoyed, and you go, yeah, I really think I
should do this, I should follow thru, I should make this happen because
you’re passive. I’m going to ask you to become active, and the way we’re
going to do it is a couple ways. If I ask you a question I’m going to
ask you if you will, that you yell back the answer, that's of course
while you're infront of your laptop or desktop, not because we have a
bunch of positive thinking here, because I don’t just believe in
positive thinking, I believe in action, in emotions, I believe in seeing
things as they are, and not lying to yourself, I believe in seeing
things as they are and not making it worse than it is, which a lot of
most people do, and I believe in seeing it better than it is, and how do
you close that gap. But to do that if you engage your body, the
engagement of your body will bring your energy up, if your energy is
higher, you retain it, but you first got to activate yourself, so are
you willing to use your body when i ask questions? And you yell back the
answer.
Oh no, that was not very good at all, do you understand why? Because if
you engage your body, the engagement of your body will bring your energy
up, if your energy is higher, you retain it, and if you keep on doing
this in the beginning it feels kind of weird, especially for some
people, but after a while you’ll start to see that it feeds your energy.
And, when you have the energy, the energy will follow thru. Are you
here because some area of your life,
you really want to improve or change or become more successful? Are you reading this now for that reason?
If that’s true then the biggest thing we’re going to do, than
from the thinking about it is the doing, and the way to do it is to
train your body to be more active. Are you willing to do that? I’ll give
you an example comparison about this. If you really want to learn
rapidly, if you really want to change your life the way that you do this
is to become more like a kid. Are you willing to do that? You can go
back to being your older self if you want to later, or come back to
being mentally old again. Are you willing to become young at heart like a
kid?
Because kids instinctively do the things that make them more, learning
very rapidly, and one of the things about the kids is they’ve a certain
amount of energy. Before we teach them how to calm down and be in a
certain way, isn’t that true? So kids when they’re learning, they’re
like crazy and they’re willing to learn because they’re not worried
about falling. If a kid falls down they get back up again but if adults,
if you fall down we look around and say anybody see that? No, i’m not
going to do that thing again.
As adults what we have to do is,
engage yourself more, so today I’m going to ask you and invite you to
decide right now for some couple of minutes, to be really effective
you’re going to do things differently than you have in the past, because
in the past, you went to a meeting or seminar, you went to an educated
place, or in an environment like this you got good information, and you
didn’t use it at all because you were passive.
I’m going to ask you
to change that and so the way to think about that is, you don’t have to
think about age in terms of energy. Energy is something that’s more
psychology than it is age. Some people are very old but they’re very
young at heart, and they have tremendous energy, and you can tell how
old somebody is by the way they move. Alright, I don’t care what age you
are today i want you to become a kid, just for a couple of minutes. I
really want to know now if you want to?
You’re watching kids walk thru the living room like this, they walk
along like this, they go whof, they walk off for no reason right after
it. C’mon, who’s ever done this before? C’mon, well you see, you’re
willing to be playful, you’re willing to do those things before the
culture, any culture we’re in, it teaches us to getting quiet and kind
of fit in. But that doesn’t allow you to use you’re responding in. So
the way I’m looking at this is this, I don’t care what age you are today
i want you to become a kid, just for a couple of minutes. You can
always go back to being an old fart later on if you want to. But I want
you to just try being like a kid. What makes you a kid is, you’re
spontaneous, you want to try anything, you want to do anything, you go
back and forth you’re not so passive, how many follow what I’m talking
about here?
So I’ll give you an example comparison for this. When you turned to a
very energetic age like 40, you’ll never forget, you got your friends
that came to you and said, man you go like crazy, you did this for
several times, you’re no athlete you know, you’re always going and
going, you really should slow down, and you know some athletes retire
around 40, you thought, they’re obviously the wrong people to spend your
time with.
What human beings can do is incredible, but you got to
become a kid again, so you start to remember what you’re capable of
instead of an adult who goes, yeah, yeah, I’ve tried that before.
We
got to get ourselves in a different state, a psychological emotional
state where you’re like a kid again where you got that energy.
My
point is simple, if you and I are going to get some value out of this
day besides some information, we got to get ourselves in a different
state, a psychological emotional state where you’re like a kid again
where you got that energy. Do you follow me on this?
An example for that energy of a kid is simple. If I’m walking along and
I’m you know, I’m 22 yrs old but I’m still a kid, you can use this
example for yourself. I feel like when I’m walking along and let’s
imagine there’s been a big rain storm something that’s easy to occur
here, and there’s here some giant puddle in your way, if you’re mentally
old regardless of your age, what do you do when you see that puddle in
your way? What do you do? C’mon yell it out. What do you do? No, you
don’t just walk around, you walk around and keep on complaining about it
while you walk around it. Isn’t that what all people do? What does a
kid do when they see that puddle there? What do they do? Right, bamm, I
want to go for it! How many of you are willing to be a kid just for a
few minutes? And you can always go back older if you want?
Now I
don’t know why you're here reading this, I don’t know what made you
decide to give up a day of your life and come to this site-meeting.
But my bet is there’s something you want to improve or change. Do you have something to improve or change?
Well
the reason you want to improve or change it, has to do with a desire
that everybody has, so, why are you here in this site?
What made you decide to come to this site? Are you open to business?
What’s your name, where are you from?
Why do you want the additional money? What do you think that’s going to give you?
And what do you hope to get?
Think of a specific goal or something that would excite you if you could
achieve it. Whatever it is you want, I want you right now to think of a
goal or desire. You have, any goal at all, a goal or desire? So that if
you can make that happen it will excite you.
What’s something, that
like maybe you don’t even totally believe that if you can make that
happen, that will rock your world, that will excite you, you feel alive?
How
many could think of a specific goal or something that would excite you
if you could achieve it? If you could think of one that could excite you
so I could have a real good sense if you got one or not.
Fantastic. Now I want you to say it out loud, what is that goal, what do you want to achieve, say it again out loud.
Whatever it is, what is it? Say it again out loud, say it out loud, go.
Now if you were to achieve that goal how would you feel?
See, if all of you think you’re going to feel, yeah, you bring it to yourself up, it ain’t worth all that effort.
My
point is this, everything you say you want, if you said to me I want to
make a hundred million pesos, or you said to me I want to create peace
on earth, or you said I’m just trying to get my children to be happy for
5 minutes or you say I want to attract the love of my life,
Whatever you say you want, you only want it because you believe at some level, it’s going to make you feel in a certain way.
All
you really want are feelings, If someone says I want a million pesos, I
go great, you want a million pieces of papers with pictures of deceased
notables on it? No!
You want what you think money would bring you, what do you think money would give you?
You might say freedom or security or power or the ability to give but those are all feelings aren’t they?
If you say I want a new car, what do you want the new car for? So I can
get from point A to point B. But most people want a specific car because
they associate a feeling to it, like sportiness or fun or newness or
something.
Whatever you want, you want to feel it and yet most of us
have forgotten the feelings we’re after and we’ve forgotten something
else, the feelings that would make you feel so alive, the feeling that
would make your life feel alive, I mean more excited, more passionate
than ever, they’re available to you right now.
Because guess what?
If
you achieve the goal you just said you’d achieve. That goal you really
want, let’s pretend that you achieved it, you really achieved it and
you’re feeling this great feeling.
Who’s going to make you feel good when you achieve that goal?
The only reason that you’re feeling good is you’re going to give
it to yourself at that point. So why wait, why not give it to yourself
now. Some people say when they’ve been to a really tough time. If you’re
really in a painful situation, in our country many times people say,
well someday, we’ll look back and laugh on this. Anthony Robbins and I
too always say to them why wait? See, we got to take control of our body
now. If you kiss somebody and wham! you’re so excited, where is that
excitement feeling coming from? Is it from one tissue kissing one
tissue? No, that was true if kissing your dog would excite you. It’s
because you have a belief in your mind that says when somebody with the
same spiritual life, or who looks like this and their shaped like this,
and kisses me like this, wow i feel like this, but if they’re shaped
like this and they’re not spiritual, and they don’t believe what i
believe then i stay away from them.
We create our own feelings. And I
want to show you how you’d get those immediately because in the state
that you feel alive, you’ll do the things you’re not doing, you’ll get
momentum, you’ll get results. Does this make sense to you?
Remember whenever you are asked, answer it truthfully, with your body
actions, that's where true feelings are activated when you're honest
with yourself.
How many of you would like to have much more joy and
happiness in your life? Then We’re not going to wait for it, we’re going
to do it, let me show you what we’re going to do first. Emotions,
emotions is what you’re after. Some emotions, some of you want joy, some
of you want peace, some of you want success, some of you want love,
some of you say, I want all of the above, alright.Do you want all of
those things i just said?
Those emotions that are the reward of life
are available in your body right now. The problem is most people are
trying to get a good state of mind by trying to being positive and goes,
I’m happy I’m happy I’m happy. And your brain goes you are not happy.
Because the body teaches the mind what to feel, anymore than the mind
and the body. In other words emotions, emotion is what you’re after.
You’re
not after just the car, cars can get rusty and old, you’re after the
emotion of getting that car. You’re after the emotion, of the freedom,
you’re not after a person. you’re after the feelings of love or intimacy
or passion or joy.
You’re not after money, oh yes I am, you’re after what money will give you, which is an emotion, right?
Something
you’re after, and that thing you want you can have right now. And if
you have the emotion now, you tend to get the goal quicker anyway. Do
you have something that you want that you want to feel right now?
Because you’re not feeling so beat up, depressed or tired or down
there’s energy flowing in. feelings are created by motion. So I want you
to notice that feelings, emotion is created by motion. The way you
move, determines the way you feel. So if there’s a depressed person, do
they take on a certain posture when people are sad and depressed? Of
course they do. If somebody’s really depressed is their head up or down?
C’mon quick which one? Are their eyes up or down? Are they breathing
full or shallow? Are they talking loud or more quiet? Fast or more slow?
Now how come you agree
And you’re from a different place, and with others you are all saying the same thing, how come?
Because
you all know what it takes to feel lousy, you’ve done it before. Now if
you take that same person and you change their body, you change the way
they move, you change the way they breathe, you change their voice, you
change their face, their biochemistry changes, they physically and
emotionally change, its not fake, it literally triggers you, just like a
drug would trigger you where there’s no side effects.
Experiment
with how you use your body to feel in a certain way so I want you to
experiment with how you use your body to feel in a certain way. Are you
willing to do that?
C’mon shake up your body, and here’s what you’re going to do, I’m going
to ask you in one moment to go and meet people, that you don’t know, you
got to move around and introduce yourself to people. When you do this
stuff. I want you to specifically greet people in a certain state of
mind and emotion. I want you to greet people as if meeting them was a
complete waste of your time, so when you do this I’m going to ask you to
do this deliberately. Because I want you to notice what you have to do
in your muscle face to feel like it’s a waste of your time. What do you
have to do with the muscles around your mouth? How do you breathe where
it’s a waste of your time, more shallow or more aggressive? Do you move
straight towards them or do you hesitate? Is your voice louder or quite?
I want you to notice what you do when it’s a waste of your time. Like
this, you might say something like this, you sir come here, you come
here what’s your name? What? Get out of here. Now, i want you to do this
deliberately because i want you to notice 2 things: how does it feel
when somebody greets you that way, that wouldn’t be hard to figure it
out, but
More importantly what do you do with your face, your voice,
your body, your posture, gesture when it’s a waste of your time.
Because we’re going to compare it later to a different feeling ok? So we
know what we’ll do with our body, so I want you to get to as many
people as you can and be like a little kid really go for it, that it’s a
waste of your time go go introduce yourself to people.
Now, question, some of you, when i said you do this you couldn’t, you
just said and were like hi but how many of you did this, how many of you
acted like it was a waste of time? How many of you did this? Ok then I
want you to yell out your answers. Yell out the answer it will also keep
your energy high.
How many of you did it when it was a waste of your time, or bugged you?
How many of you had to change the muscles in your face? Did you change your posture when you did this?
Did you talk louder or quieter when it was a waste of your time?
Notice I didn’t tell you what to answer because this is what the body does, ah it’s just a waste of time.
Did you talk faster or slower? Which one? Did you go straight towards them or did you kind of hesitate a bit?
That’s
right, and notice you're saying the same thing like other people
because while we’re all different, we’ve all come from different
cultures. What’s universal is the human body. If you use your body in a
certain way you feel in a certain way. If you change the way you use it,
you will feel differently and if you feel differently, you’ll do
different things and that’s where success or failure comes from.
You would now observe that you are interacting online via this site.
Now
I want you to do it this time as if you were definitely afraid someone
was going to reject you. Let’s try a different state shake your body
out.
Alright, now, here’s what I want you to do, this time I’m going
to ask you to go greet people but this time I want you to do it in a
different mental emotional state of mind. I want you to do it this time
as if you were definitely afraid someone was going to reject you. So you
might say something like this you might go say, hi, what’s your name?
Thank you. (shyly) Now. I want you to be like a little kid and I want
you to exaggerate and be playful.
Because if you’re a bored adult
you’ll be doing like: why’re we doing this? But if you’re a kid I want
you to explore because have you ever done this, have you ever been
watching the olympics on television, ever been like sitting in your
chair, sitting and you’re watching someone skiing or racketting the ball
and as you’re sitting in your chair watching them and you're rocking
your body to and fro? Have you ever done like that? I want you to
exaggerate those. Because when we’re scared, who here has ever failed to
follow thru at a goal? Because you’re afraid of being rejected or
failing. Who’s ever done this before raise your hand? If you don’t raise
your hand you lie about other things too.
We’ve all done this. So
don’t tell me you haven’t done it. I just want you to exaggerate what
that fear is like, so you can see what do you do with your body, your
face, your voice, when you’re really scared, when you’re definitely
afraid of being rejected or failed. So greet as many people as you can
but really be like a little kid and you’re totally afraid that they’re
going to reject you and see what you’re doing to your body. That’s
different than it’s a waste of your time. Ok. Greet as many people as
you can like you’re afraid of them go, go, go.
Ok stop freeze, wherever you are. Shake your body out, shake it out. Now
I’ve got a question, please yell out the answer, did you have to use
your face differently to get fearful than you were in a waste of time,
yes or no?
Did you change your posture when you were fearful yes or
no? Ah. Did you change your breathing when you’re fearful yes or no? Did
you breathe more full or more shallow, which one? Which one? Which one?
Notice you're saying the same thing like the other people, I’m not
telling you, but your body goes there doesn’t it? Did you talk more
loudly or quietly when you were afraid. Faster or even slower? Mmm. Did
you go straight towards them or did you hesitate? Even more than the
other way didn’t you?
Now, shake your body out let’s do one more.
This time i want you to really be playful, do you own your own business?
Congratulations, wonderful!
Are you in the profession of sales or
marketing? You sell a market or product or service? Are you a teacher?
doctor? or nurse raise your hand? a lawyer don’t raise your hand, no
just kidding, just kidding. Now do you have a relationship with a human,
with a human raise your hand? Then this is going to work for you. Are
you ready?
Here’s what I want you to do, I want you to imagine this time that when
you go to greet somebody whether they like you or not, in the first 5-10
seconds of meeting you, is going to determine whether they’ll do
business with you or not. Now people would never judge people in the
first 5-10 seconds. Would they, yes or no? Sure they do. Now here’s what
I want you to do.
I want you to imagine it’s so important they like
you in the first 5-10 seconds that if they don’t like you in the first
5-10 seconds they’re not going to do business with you and as a result
your kids aren’t going to eat next week or if you have no children
here’s what happens, if they don’t like you in the first 5-10 seconds
meeting you, everyone you care about dies like pigs in hell. If it was
that very important I bet you’d use your body wouldn’t you?
In order
for you to feel like that you got to do that with your body, when I say
now greet people as if whether or not they like you or not in the first
5 to 10 seconds determines whether or not everybody you care about
lives or dies. Ready go. Now I got a question. Did you use more of your
body yes or no? Did you use more of your face yes or no? Did you rise up
more or collapse, which one? Ah. Did you hesitate or go straight
forward? Did you talk quiet or more loud? Faster or slower? Breathing
shallow or more full? Now there’s so many people of every kind of belief
system and for all over the world and you’re also saying the same
thing. You know why? Because in order for you to feel like that you got
to do that with your body, regardless of your upbringing, regardless of
your culture, the body is the creation of God, or nature, whatever you
believe, but It’s the same for all of us, if we use it, it gives us
amazing gifts. But most of us by our culture that conditions ourselves,
if we use very little of it and so we feel very little experience very
little. If you want a new life here is what you got to know, if you want
to be successful, find out what failures do and don’t do that. And the
majority of people are failing. If you do the opposite of everyone else
your chances are much greater. Do you agree with me on this say I?
Better than the opposite is to learn what drives you, what turns you on,
what moves you, now, did you give the best greeting you’re capable of
giving a stranger, yes or no? Give me an answer, say out loud, yes or
no? Is that the best greeting your capable of giving to a stranger yes
or no? A yes, mostly no? Let’s review shall we, I say if you don’t give
your best, everyone you care about dies. And you still didn’t give your
best. We need to talk. Now if you said no, I honor you, because you
were told that you speak the truth, weren’t you? Because whenever people
say I’ve given my best, it’s always a lie, they’re not trying to lie
it’s just because whenever you give what your best is what do you find
out? That there’s always another level, isn’t there? So what I want you
to do is to take this up one more notch, this time I want you to greet
somebody at a different level. This time I want you to greet somebody as
if they’re like your long lost best friend, oh my God it’s Mary, there
she is, oh my God… oh yes, yes. Mwah. Mwah. I want you to greet them. I
want you to greet them like a long lost lover or best friend, go, go,
go, go.
Did that feel better yes or no? If it felt better say yes. Did you use
more of your body to do that, yes or no? More of the muscles in your
face, yes or no? Did you have more breathe or less breathe? Did you move
faster or slower? Did you hesitate or go straight forward? Now notice,
by the way, how many of you enjoyed that one a lot, say I. The mind says
here is to wake up and use your nervous system in a whole new way, so
you do things differently, who here has something you were here for and
you were going to change? How many came here with something, say I. It
will only change if you change your state. It will not change by
learning information by itself. Information without emotion is not
retained. If I asked you where were you on 911 2001 even if you’re not
from America, how many can remember where you were when you heard about
it, raise your hand, say I. If I asked you where you were in 909, of
course you don’t remember at all. Just what’s the difference, emotion,
if you had the emotion you would remember where you were, who you were
speaking with, you could see it all. If I asked you what room number you
were in a hotel, you don’t remember unless something special happened
in that room number. Do you follow?
It is the emotion that changes things and what we need to do is remember
that emotion is created by motion, the more you use of your body, the
more you will feel or the more you will do or the more successful you’ll
become. You see anyone who has that capacity, then you know how to put
it in gear when they need to. So I’m going to ask you to give yourself
this gift. Now, why do you want to succeed, why do you want to achieve?
Why do you want to make a difference, because of how you think it will
make you feel. Is it true, yes or no?
So I’m saying to you don’t wait to feel good. If people think, well, if I
work really hard and eventually I get my goal then I feel good, who
here has ever achieved his goal? Who here has ever achieved his goal
that was important to you and you achieved it and your brain went, is
this all there is? How many of you had this experience, raise your hand
say I. That’s a horrible feeling isn’t it, and it’s because you don’t
understand that getting the goal is not enough. Get the feeling right.
Goal too, you will achieve it also. But you got to train your body to do
this. Because our culture, all of our cultures in the world every
culture is different. But all cultures teach you to fit in, and if
you’re going to serve your community your country, your family, and if
you’re going to serve what God has made you to be whatever that
distinction may be how do you language that, whatever you’re here for
then you got to learn to put yourself in a different state. Do you
follow?
So I’m saying to you, how many of you would like to have more joy more
happiness more ecstasy in your life? How many like to have a lot more of
those things say I? Anyone opposed to those feelings say I. Ok good.
Then we’re not going to wait for them to happen. Emotions don’t just
happen to you, you do them, you do them by the way you use your body and
by what you focus on, those 2 together create your emotions or
feelings. So if we change the way we move, we change the way we feel. So
here’s what we’re going to do. I want you to imagine this goal you have
in your mind earlier you really want. A
goal, a dream, a desire, a
fantasy that if you’re going to achieve it will so excite you. How many
follow when you’re ready you know what will really excite you. If you
got one raise your hand right now, say I. Great, I want you to imagine
right now, you just achieved that goal, you really achieved it how will
you feel? Eheh. I noticed how quickly that was over. See, if your brain
goes I am going to work this hard so I go yeah for 2 seconds, your
brain’s not going to do what’s necessary, you’re just going to get
caught up in your daily lives. Do you follow?
Most of you do not have enough associated to what you want. Not enough
draw. Most people are trying to push their way to get somewhere. But if
you can imagine what you want and you make it strong enough, it will
pull towards it. And pull is much more powerful than push. This man he
feels lazy, he’s not lazy. He has infinite goals. Goals, that don’t hold
him enough. That don’t excite him enough. He doesn’t believe in it
enough. It’s not real enough. So of course he’s lazy, we’re all lazy
when we have nothing to look forward to or nothing strong enough to pull
us. But we can change that in a heartbeat, but the way you got to
change it he has to change his body first because if you ask somebody in
this state, like this, they’re like, what do you want and go(emote) I
don’t know (mumbling) what do you think you want? I don’t know maybe. …
now what do you think the chance of this person in ever getting any of
that is? Zero. Because there’s no animation.
But if you get somebody
totally in a peak state, you go what do you want, then I’ll tell you
what I want, and they’re referring to a different place, so we want to
get in that place. Are you ready for it?
So here’s what I want you to do, shake your body out, and we’re going to
take this to a whole level. Now here’s what we’re going to do you can
take off your jacket if you’re wearing one so you could use more of your
body not get too hot, here’s what we’re going to do, we’re going to
celebrate for no good reason. Just because we chose to. Here’s what I
mean. Listen to me now.
Most people spend their lives where they
have very little joy, it’s not because joy isn’t there, it’s just they
think life has to be in a certain way and then you get to feel joy for a
moment someday in the future. But what I want you to experience is
total unrelenting playful crazy kid like passion, joy and celebration.
Now here’s what’s interesting, most people almost never do this, do
they? Very rarely. Now I’m telling you this is because when most people
celebrate, is when they have a baby. Oh my god it’s a boy, it’s a girl,
if you see people they might even hug a stranger, and it’s ok. What else
do people really celebrate, when they finish school? Yeah, I did it. Oh
gosh! I have to go to work. What else do they celebrate, c’mon what
else? That’s right, sports. Right, when a local sports team wins a
championship, show me what happens, c’mon show me with your body, What
do people do? Don’t people go crazy? Do they, yes or no? C’mon. They
scream, they yell they jump, yeah we did it, we did it, what did you do,
what do you mean we did it, you didn’t do a thing, you watched,that’s
what you did. But I’m glad you’re finally happy, because some stranger
did something you had nothing to do with. Now some people, and by the
way it’s culturally acceptable to do this when a sports team, your local
sports team or national team wins, isn’t it? People expect it, it’s
totally cool. But some of you living in cities, and if it’s the only
time you’re going to be happy when your local sports team wins, you’ll
never gonna be happy. Do you follow?
So we don’t want to wait, we want to celebrate. Think about this, pls.
Here’s a belief to try. You don’t need an excuse to be happy. And if you
think that’s crazy, think about this, most people need an excuse to be
unhappy, do they? How’s it going? Feels like crap. How come? Woke up...
and, people go, I understand. See if you say how are you doing, I’m
feeling so good, how come, i don’t know i just feel good, take him to
the funny farm. But if people are depressed everybody thinks that’s
normal or bored or tired or burnt out or stressed. So I’m saying to you,
a muscle, how do you build a muscle, do you want to build your biceps,
how do you build it, what do you got to do? C’mon what do you got to do?
Not just exercise, you get exercises much a hundred times with a really
light weight, and you won’t get anymore muscle. You have to take a
weight that’s hard, that’s difficult. Isn’t it true? nd you got to push
so hard, and when you feel you can’t do anything you got to push more.
If I want to build my biceps, maybe I’d do curls with a weight. As I do
this curls, let’s say, I took a huge weight that’s really hard to lift,
and I’m going to do ten curls. Which one of those 10 curls do i want to
do the least? Which one? Number 10. Which one gives you 90% of the
growth? Who knows? Number 11. Do you follow?
Because, see, when you think you can’t do it and you make yourself push
thru it, that’s where you get all the growth, how many of you know what
I’m talking about here say I. So we want to train our emotional muscles.
Because what’s more powerful than love, or faith, or courage, or
determination, or passion. Think about it. And if your courage, you
don’t use your courage, does it get stronger or weaker, which one? It
get’s weaker. What you don’t use you lose, so the more we work the more
we’re going to get, so we’re going to work our happiness, our joy, our
ecstasy muscles. And here’s how we’re going to do it, in a moment we’re
going to celebrate for no good reason. Just because we’re going to train
our body to be this way again. So the way we’re going to do it, this is
to remind you since many of you had not celebrated in a long time. That
if you’re a little kid in you’re celebrating you would use your whole
body. So here’s the first key to celebration, your feet must come off
the ground…. So you got two feet off the ground specially if you’re old
mentally, specially. Second thing is you must extend your body while
you’re doing this because once you extend your body, you open your
diaphragm and it changes your biochemistry. 3rd how many of you use
sounds? When you’re really excited about something or at least when you
were a kid, how many of you make sounds, say I. Right now just make some
crazy sounds of excitement, c’mon make some sounds. C’mon, try another
one, try another one. Try another one, try another sound. Yes. Very
nice. Now, sounds change the way we feel but as cultures we learned to
be quiet. When you’re a kid how many of you made weird noises all the
time like tssk tsssk tssk? How many of you did this kind of stuff? C’mon
say I. So what happens is part of the culture makes us not use that
when we feel less alive. Do you agree with me on this?
So I want you to use sounds. In fact, how many of you in this room like
to sing, when no one’s around? How many of you would like to sing even
though you sound like hell? You’re in your car, you’re singing, you’re
walking, you drive up the stop light you’re still singing in your car,
you look over there’s a person in a car that’s staring at you. What do
you do? You quickly pick up your cellphone and act like you were talking
to someone. Why do we sing even though we don’t sound good? Because in
order to make sounds we have to move parts of your body. Feelings or
emotions created by motions. If you don’t use it, you lose it. So we’re
going to leap, we’re going to stand, we’re going to use our voices and
we’re going to celebrate like the greatest sports you won, like you have
the ultimate achievement in your goals, like the happiest moment of
your life. Now we’re going to do this celebration for just a few
seconds. How many of you want to try this, say I. Here we go clap 1, 2,
3… make a sound. If that feels good say yes. Say yes. Ok, give a high
five to the someone around you. And grab a sit. Take a look at anyone
around you, and notice if any of them around you did this this… gasping.
Oh man. Whooo. Sure glad that’s over. Get back to the seminaring stuff.
Make sure you’re sitting up in a peak state, in a peak state even
in your chair. Look at the person beside in a peak state if they’re not,
adjust their state. See, I get results and the reason I get results is
what I’m going to teach you right now. But the difference in how people
perform is not based on their ability, what people can do is amazing but
what they do is usually disappointing. And the reason it’s
disappointing is not because they’re not smart it’s because they haven’t
learned the number 1 key to the success in life, they have not learned
how to master their own state. How to master your state is the single
most important distinction in your life. Bar none. No matter what you do
for a living. No matter who you care about. Whether you’re parents,
whether you’re someone’s law firm, whether a son a daughter, a mom. Do
you follow me on this?
Whatever you want to do the most important skill in life is state
management. If you can manage and master your states, there’s nothing
you can’t do. Because the information about how to do things is all
around us. Isn’t it true? If you want to make money there’s million of
books, there’re millions of seminars you could go on line, you can do a
million things. You want to change your body, there’re places, classes,
courses, everywhere. We’re not hurting for information, in fact how many
in your life know someone, how many of you know someone, that has
something they need to change. They know they need to change it. They
want to change it. And they even know how to change it, but they still
don’t change it. How many know something like this, raise your hand, say
I. How many of you know this person intimately? Yes. So the problem is
not information, in fact let me tell you what I’ve learned, at this
point in my life when you’ve been around people, face to face. And I’m
talking about people from every walk of life with different cultures.
Here’s what I’ve learned. 80% of success is psychology and 20% is
mechanics. 80% of success on anything is your psychology, your mind set,
the emotions you bring to the table, 20% is the mechanics. The
mechanics of anything can be figured out by anyone and most people even
know enough to get their job done but they’re not doing it because their
psychology is messed up, their state. The way of the place that they
live. So I’m going to show you how to change your state and we’ve
already been demonstrating the number 1 way. The number 1 way of
changing your state is by changing the way you use your body. Do you
follow?
But let me clarify of what i mean by state first. How many in this room
have ever done something when after you did it you’re back to yourself
ahh. I can’t believe I said that. I can’t believe I did that. That was
so stupid. How many of you have ever done this before, raise your hand
say I. How many of you have ever done something where after you did it
you were like mmmm mmmm mmmm. That was me. You didn’t know how you did
it but you impressed the heck out of yourself by doing it, how many have
ever done this before say I. My goodness that’s the same person with
the same ability and skill, how come in one situation, you’re brilliant
and the other one now you’re an idiot, you’re the same person because
what you succeed on or not is not based on intelligence it’s based on
state first, state. And here’s what’s nice, have you ever gotten in a
state where you couldn’t remember your own telephone number, or your
address, or your email, or how to spell a difficult word like the? Who’s
ever been in this place, c’mon raise your hand say I. On the other
hand, you know why can’t you think of it, you know the answer, because
in that moment you’re in what I call a stupid state, but as you changed
when you changed your body, you changed your focus, and you go, oh yeah I
remember, because you’re getting a new state and the answer is there.
So
state is the basis of performance, you want to change your results, you
want to change everything, you change your state. One of the ways we
can do it, your 2 ways to change your state. If I want to change the
results I’m getting. I got to change my actions but whether I take
action or not it’s based in the state I’m in, so what are my ways of
changing state, my no. 1 way, we call a radical change in your
physiology. And physiology is just a fancy word for the physical body,
if you want to change your state you got to make a radical change in
using your physical body your physiology. Now what does that mean, well
there are many ways to change your physiology, the way you move, the way
you breathe, the muscle tension in your face, or the relaxation,
there’re a zillion ways to change your physiology. Some people when they
don’t like the way they feel, some people in asia, when they don’t like
the way they feel, what do they do? You tell me?
If you don’t like the way you feel what do most people in Asia do to
change the way they feel instantly, shop, ok shopping, that seems to be
quite inviting. Now, shopping makes you do two things, you change, you
start moving around and doing something else which changes your body,
but it also changes the second thing, so I revealed to you, the other
thing that you change your state is change in what you focus on, because
what you focus on, you feel. If you start focusing on something you
start to feel what you’re focusing on. If i say to you right now, I like
you right now just for a moment take a deep breathe in, exhale and
moan. Take another deep breath in and this time make it a sexual moan.
Wow, that one was deeper and louder I noticed.
Now here’s what you
do, close your eyes for a moment and I want you to focus on and remember
one of the most romantic or sexy moments of your life, you don’t have
to tell anybody just focus on it they can’t see you it’s in your head.
Think of one of the most romantic or sexy or sensual moments of your
life. And if you can’t think of anything, that serves as a clue. Now as
you focus on it, take that image of what you’re focusing on, make it
bigger, bring the image of it closer. Make it sound even better. And if
you’re feeling pretty good right now, say yes. Now, open your eyes and
the feeling changed came, you didn’t really change your body this time
did you? You just changed what you’re focusing on. Now if I got you to
think of one of the most miserable moments of your life, don’t go there,
but if I did, do you think you’ll feel differently as you remember it,
yes or no? Of course because focus equals feelings. Focus equals
feelings. Can somebody have a great life and be miserable still because
they focused on little things that bug them, yes or no? Focus equals
feelings. Can you have everybody loving you and you still feel unloved,
sure all you just got to do is focus on something that makes you
unloved. Remember the time? Focus on the situation. Do you follow me on
this?
2 ways to change how you feel is change your physiology (body) and your
focus, so this woman says if I won’t go late, I’ll go shopping, so when
she goes shopping she’s now physically moving and as she moves she
changes her state and she’s focusing on things she likes, things she
might want to have, and that focus changes the way she feels, how else
do people change the way they feel in this culture? If you’re feeling
tired or frustrated or sad or bored or angry or worried, what do you do
to change your state, what else do you change how you’re feeling? Eat,
big one is eating, specially you eat something you really love, you
focus on it and you feel it in your body specially if you’re over eating
you start breathing again, you’re no longer stressed because you’re
breathing in your stomach. What else do people do? Drinking alcohol.
alcohol will change your state radically by changing your biochemistry
so many of us find ways to change our states but the problem is they
have side effects, the side effects that you feel lousy the next day or
you get fat or you get broke with a big credit card or whatever, so,
there are easier and faster ways to make these changes they have no
downside, and the first and most important way is by just radically
changing the way you use your physical body. Now, write this down if you
would. If you want to know what’s shaping your destiny, shaping your
life right now as we read, what’s going to determine how your life turns
out, is it going to be the conditions of the world,
can the
conditions outside be lousy and you still have a great time, yes or no?
Can people be going broke or someone else gets rich, yes or no? Yes.
So
are there people by the way who’ve been given everything, love from
their family support, great education, economics and they’re still
unhappy is that possible yes or no? So we like to believe that our life
turns out because of our environment. Because of our biography, because
of the way we grew up.
But the truth of the matter is you can find
people who have been given everything and who spend their whole life
going out of rehab for alcohol or drugs and they were given everything
and then you find someone else who was treated meanly, harshly unfairly,
they have no money, no education, no background and they become some of
the most successful people in the world, is that true yes or no? So our
biography, our past doesn’t equal our future unless we live that. If
you keep focusing on your past, and how it has kept you from what you
want, you’re right. The people who have changed their lives, those
individuals are the people who understand what power controls your life
and that is decision. Do you follow me on this?
If you won’t change your life today you come reading this, nothing I say
is going to change your life, it can be used by you to inspire yourself
to change your life but the only thing that changes you is the
decision, a real decision by the way, is when you take immediate
massive what? Action on. If you don’t take action you don’t say decision
you said preference. I planned on like this to work out. When you decide
something, when you decide, the word decide comes from latin, it’s just
like incision, it means to cut off from. When you decide you’re going
to do something you cut off any other any possibility.You put yourself
in a state that if you want to take the island you burn your boat
because if there’s no going back you’re going to move forward, that’s
the real decision. Now I want to tell you right now, as you listen to
me, those who’ve heard me before and those who never have. Your life in
this moment has been controlled by 3 decisions, here’s the first one, as
I’m speaking every moment of your life when I’m not here, later on
you’re going to be making this decision, what are you going to focus on,
because, whatever you focus on, you feel and you move towards, where
focus goes energy flows. Where focus goes energy flows. I’ll give you a
simple example. if I want to go out and I want to, let’s say go to
dinner with my husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, let’s say
you’re going to meet your husband or wife, your boyfriend or girlfriend
at 7 o clock, and they tell you I’m going to meet you at 7 o' clock and
you get to the restaurant at 7 o' clock and they’re not there. Tell me
what you’re feeling right now, first gut response, you got there at 7
they’re not there, yell it out loud, what do you feel? Ok you’re really
angry some of you say you’re really worried. Its only 7, let’s say it’s
now 7:30.They have not shown up and they have not called and you’re
still sitting here, now what are you feeling? C’mon yell out loud what
are you feeling, really angry, really worried? Okay, 2 different people
here, one saying angry, one saying worried, let’s say it’s now 8:30
you’ve been there since 7, they’ve not called and they’ve not shown up,
now what are you feeling? This woman says full, I’m not waiting for the
bastard, good man, good, full. So let’s imagine now what happens, why is
one person worried, and one person angry, is it because the person
didn’t show up, no. It’s because the minute you’re alive every moment
you have to decide what to focus on and then you made the second
decision, what does this mean? The person who’s mad what do they focus
on, they’re not here again, they’re late again, and the meaning they
give is, they don’t care, or may they’re out screwing around with
somebody else, will that get you upset, you bet. What if the person is
worried what are they focusing on, their worrying, what might they be
focusing on, you tell me c’mon, if you’re worried about the person, they
didn’t show up, what are you focusing on? That’s right maybe they’re in
an accident, and the meaning is that, oh my god may be they’re hurt and
so now you’re worried. Do you follow me on this?
Whichever decision you make what you focus on, and the meaning you give
it, completely controls your life. If that person never shows up, and
they weren’t in an accident and they weren’t screwing around, the person
who is angry, is going to treat them the way that makes them never want
to come again, and the person who’s worried will treat them completely,
differently, it has nothing to do with the event, it’s your decisions
that are controlling your destiny. So the first decision you make every
moment is what you focus on, am I going to focus on what I have or what I
don’t have, what I can do or what I can’t do, what I’m in control of or
what’s in control of me, am I going to focus on the past, the present,
or the future? Whatever you focus on completely changes the way you’re
going to interact with people, it changes the way you feel, it changes
your life. Doesn’t it? The 2nd decision you make is what does this mean,
is this the end or the beginning? Is god punishing you right now by
this situation that happened or is god challenging you or is god
actually giving you a gift? See, the meaning you give something
instantly changes the way you feel about it overnite. If you think that
this is the beginning of a relationship you’re going to act very
differently than you think it’s the end. The beginning of a job, than
the end of the job or a business. How many follow what I’m talking about
here say I. And when you can change that meaning, how fast can you
change what you focus on? How fast can you change what things mean?
Literally in a heartbeat you can change and when you change the meaning
everything changes. Have you ever had something in your life that really
upset you and then finally years later you got over it because you wind
back and you looked and you know what? I realized now that if that
didn’t happen I wouldn’t be who I am today, even though I hated that
situation it made me stronger or more powerful or more caring, thank god
that happened. How many have that ever happened to you, say I. The
reason you’re happy today is you’ve given it a different meaning, you’re
focusing on a different aspect of it, if you changed what you focus on
and you changed what something means, you changed your life in that
instant. Want to change your life? Make a new choice, make a new
decision about what to focus on or what something means. |
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